Thursday, 24 January 2013

Self Love Secrets -Motivation(MUST READ)


Notice how some people spend a lot of time waiting for someone to love them ?Yes you can love urself but what does it really mean to love yourself?

So of late i have been reading a lot of motivational articles about life in general that i really feel i should share and i will be blogging about what i read atleast once in a while.

It may seem too long to read but I know someone out there will come across this and atleast two or more will learn something

Its generally about  How To love and appreciate Yourself,how to be comfortable with yourself and how not to depend on others to be happy.

I have compiled a list on “how to love yourself” for readers who are facing difficulty with knowing what to do in embracing themselves. When I first began to be aware that I need to love myself first prior to developing any meaningful relationships with others, When you don’t love yourself, you are basically telling the Universe that you are unworthy or undeserving of any love or positive outcomes that have the same vibrational match as love.(By Evelyn Lim)

Learning to love yourself starts with making a conscious decision, an intention to become happy and lead a fulfilled life. When you do not love yourself and suffer from low self esteem, it is almost impossible to ever reach the potential that you suspect you have.

“Love yourself first and everything falls into line.”
 Lucille Ball quotes (American radio and motion-picture actress and comedy star, 

When you make a decision to love yourself, you are really saying that you want to come alive. You accept that you are responsible for the outcomes that you experience in your life and would like yourself to shine from living a fulfilling life.

So if you’ve decided on loving yourself but are as equally stumped on how to love yourself, here are 17 ways which I believe can be helpful: 

1. Fall in love with yourself. Think about what makes you You. Just like a flower that needs watering to grow, learn to nurture yourself in every way. Love yourself for all the good that you see and accept your flaws and the fact that you are imperfect. This does not mean that you do not learn to change from your shortcomings; instead, you are being gentle and kind to yourself despite all your “flaws”. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the reflection that is You.

To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
 Oscar Wilde quotes (Irish Poet, Novelist, Dramatist and Critic, 

2. Eliminate Self Criticism.
Do you often berate yourself over the tiniest thing? Is there a little voice inside your head that often tells you that you are no good because you are stupid or make mistakes? If you find that you often judge yourself, make an effort to stop the self criticism.

“I CAN is 100 times more important than IQ.” — unknown

3. Be Kind And Positive. When you start to think kindly and positively about yourself, the love you have for yourself just grows. Make it a habit to praise yourself everyday, while in the front of the mirror. Because of such thoughts, you naturally undertake empowering actions that support your development.

4. Acknowledge Your Effort. It is not always about winning or coming up tops in everything that you do. Many times, it is the effort that counts! Acknowledge that you have done your best, even if you have failed to produce tangible results.

5. Let Go Of Worry. Loving yourself requires you to let go of your worry. It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. I can attest to that! Worry does not help in any way. It cannot, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control, then make a request to the Universe/God about what you want. Next, surrender your outcome.

“There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.” — Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135)

6. Trust Yourself. Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes.

“Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”
Benjamin Spock quotes (American Pediatrician and Author, 1903-1998)

7. Forgive Yourself. If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Also, if you have been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself.

To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.”
Lewis B. Smedes quotes

8. Be Truthful To Yourself. Loving yourself requires you to be truthful about your own feelings. If you are happy, acknowledge the joy. If you are sad, acknowledge the sorrow. When you are truthful about your feelings, you do not try to lie to yourself or seek to bury your negative emotions. Instead, acknowledging what you feel provides a good guide to what your thoughts are. And as we all know, thoughts can be changed, so that healing and self growth can take place.

9. Grow Spiritually. When you spend time growing spiritually, loving yourself becomes automatic. You become more peaceful, connected, kind, loving and compassionate. You nurture a mind that grows more beautiful by the day. You naturally love yourself in the process.

10. Make Positive Affirmations Everyday. Reframe your mind with positive affirmations. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.

11. Express Gratitude. Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.

12. Nurture Your Dreams. Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture
your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. —Mark Twain

13. Boost Your Self Confidence. Make a deliberate attempt to look for opportunities that can help improve your confidence. For instance, if you are particularly good at doing something, set aside more time to indulge and improve your skills on it. Knowing that you have particular gifts can boost your self esteem.

14. Relax. Give yourself space to take breaks every now and then. If you spend your time working, without paying attention to your health, it also means that you do not love yourself well enough to take care of your own body. Fill your time with silence, soothing music and visions of beauty; anything that nourishes your Soul.

15. Have Fun. Inject some fun into your life. Life is meant to be an enjoyable. Don’t take life or yourself too seriously. If you can think of life in this manner, you automatically relax and quit worrying over things that do not matter.

16. Look After Your Body. It is important that you strengthen yourself with proper nutrition and regular exercise. Your body is a temple and you should treat it with respect, love and care. It has been found that the lack of self love is often the root causes of conditions like eating disorders, obesity or even terminal diseases.

“Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.”
Jim Rohn quotes (American Speaker and Author. He is famous for motivational audio programs for Business and Life. )
17. Learn To See Beauty. When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greenness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myriad hues of an evening sky.

17.See the beauty of life in general


In my work as a psychotherapist, I've found that we tend to be ashamed of our most unique, passionate and iconoclastic parts. These aspects of ourselves threaten our safety; but they are the direct path to love and, not incidentally, to personal greatness. When we suppress these challenging gifts, we're left with a sense of emptiness and loneliness.

This shame around our most vulnerable attributes is almost universal. And even our best thinking will barely budge it.

So, how do we free ourselves from the thrall of learned shame and fear around our gifts? The best--sometimes the only--way out is through relationships; relationships which instruct us in the worth of our most vulnerable self.

Of the people you know, who sees and relishes your true self? Who isn't too afraid of your passion, or too envious of your gifts? Who has the generosity of spirit to encourage you toward greater self-expression? These people are gold. Practice leaning on them more, and giving more back to them. They are, quite simply, the way out. They are what I call relationships of inspiration, and we usually need to build these relationships into in our non-romantic lives before we find them in our romantic partners. When you date someone like this, recognize what progress you've made to let them in, and celebrate that. In future posts, I will describe the path to building more of these relationships into our lives.

Wednesday, 23 January 2013

Work/Casual look

I have been searching for old stuff in the house mostly clothes that belonged to my mom that look fashionable and can be worn in this era......they say Fashion repeats itself  and i am a true believer :).

Too bad she gave out the ones that would have fit  perfectly.

 The orange/brown bag belonged to my mom till she ditched it ,it's a really old piece though,she doesn't carry it around anymore i actually got it from her old stuff.It's a keeper:)

African ladies got booty LOL ;-)

This is a nice office look for a weekend at work,you don't have to go all official.
I wish i did a photo without the sleeveless sweater,i was running out of poses gosh!

How do you find this look?
feel free to leave any comment, Thank you.

Sunday, 20 January 2013

Pink &Polka Dots:)

One of those days u get bored indoors and decide to play dress up.....this is it,this is what i wore that day,my dad came home with this awesome Nikon camera from a friend and we could not wait to try it out taking pictures i didn't quite get the model of the camera but it did take great photos

My polka dot skirt and a pink top,i did a bun with my hair and tied a blue head scarf to add colour actually an easy style to add to your hair if you want a simple look to avoid braids from dropping everywhere on your face...

Speaking of hair, i am undoing my braids and thinking of cutting it short and do a perm ION i really miss my natural hair been dreaming of what i would do with it since natural hair has been back on trend and perm so not the in thing LoL i should get rid of the perm soon though.

I wish to have twist outs and high puffs with my natural..........anyway these are the pics enjoy

That's it for today lovely people
c u in my next post xoxo

Sunday, 13 January 2013

HeR StYle19 by Edna: My Sweet Tooth Addiction ;)

HeR StYle19 by Edna: My Sweet Tooth Addiction ;): So am finally blogging about food wow :) anyway my sister came home with this extremely tasty biscuits/cookies(chocolate filled) that i real...

Wednesday, 9 January 2013

My Sweet Tooth Addiction ;)

So am finally blogging about food wow :) anyway my sister came home with this extremely tasty biscuits/cookies(chocolate filled) that i really enjoyed and  i had to share this.....i had to buy it again and again.

I actually shared a pack with my classmate who kept on asking what it's called and where i bought it but i could not remember the name of the biscuits,it really has a weird name though lol and it's my new crave i had to blog about it.........

Tatbeni halk biscuits is the name

Cant get enough of these yummy!

Almost forgot.I added a few more colours to my DIY banglez that i am still selling and the african print banglez are also still available i got alot of customers last year hoping to sell can always comment if you wish to buy or can also reach me on facebook.....

Lovely Day Readers!

Meet Jackie & Valerie :)

Meet two friends with a sense of style.....Jackie & Valerie the most annoying highschoolers i have ever met LOL hehe and one happens to be my sister

Here are their simple outfits of the day...........
this is Jacky who is apparently a good artist and really knows how to draw great work she does and very talented.She is also very creative the denim shorts are actually her own DIY and the came out so great!

She paired her DIY shorts with ankle boots
The banglez are also handy made from my jewelery african print banglez

And here is Valerie below and she is amazing,a photo guru and i love how she takes photos hoping she'll go into photography someday.....Valerie also happens to be my adorable sister & i loooooove her to bits :)

You can never go wrong with animal print and red!

Till Then

Tuesday, 8 January 2013

StriPes,Red & Leather

Hello readers and thanks for stopping by :),

Hope your all good and happy new year,this is actually my first post this year so am really excited that i made it to 2013 how did you spend you new year?would really love to hear from you so do leave your comments.....

So apparently my blog has been having problems such that it's difficult for people to follow my blog through their twitter accounts but it actually accepts a follow  through your emails and blogs so am really trying to figure out whats up

In any case, you can check at the side bar of the blog and press the icon "follow this blog" and you can follow the blog through your emails.......thankyou.

Apart from that i've made a few changes to the blog like the live feed and the awesome Befunky photo editor that my lil siz introduced me to that i am using and you should try on you photos and tell me how you find it..

These are photos from last weekend,and this is what i wore,

My new H&M Heelz Love Them!:)

How do you find this Look?feel free to leave a comment.
C you in my next post.....
Lovely day!

Tuesday, 1 January 2013

Inspiring blog ryt there;great blogThat_Fai_Daij: The BOWTIE!

That_Fai_Daij: The BOWTIE!: "I'm not content with just wearing a tshirt and jeans everyday, I love fashion and I love playing with it" So I've been overly ob...